When we think of dirty talk in bed, we may come up with language like: cock, pussy, whore, slut, etc. Many of us have reclaimed these words, and transformed them into something positive for each of us, and when sexual partners use these terms in bed with us, it can amp up the sexiness and turn on us on.
As a disabled person, I like dirty talk too. I love it when people call me a “hot cripple” or a “deliciously disabled” lover or my personal fave, a “girthy gimp”. This language makes me feel powerful as a disabled person; it reaffirms that I can be sexy while also being disabled, and that my disability is a part of my sex appeal. Many of my sexual partners feel uncomfortable using this kind of language around me, because they know of its history, and because they may not have encountered a disabled person before, they don’t want to be offensive. Rest assured dear reader, let me give you some pro crip tips on how to infuse disability into your dirty talk with your disabled lover, without veering into ableist territory.